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Jesus and my Husband

Since my last post, I have been considered deeply what the CALL OF GOD is on my life.  I am a child of God. I am a wife. I am a mother. That’s a simplified list, but where the Lord is wanting me to focus right now.

As a child of God, my first calling is to seek out my Father.  This is my privilege, to be a child of the King. I ought not to take this lightly. He seeks me out, He pursues me with His love, I am the apple of His eye.  He desires to hear my heart and to pour into me. He has absolutely everything I could ever need for this life.  2 Peter 1:3 “…His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us…”  Jesus should always be my top priority. Not only if it’s convenient. Not only if I feel “spiritual”. Not only if I’m desperate. Not only if I’m blessed.  Always. Every day. Day in and day out.

I am a wife. I’ve got a great husband. I didn’t say perfect 🙂 but he is great. He loves Jesus more than he loves me. He loves me with all his heart, and I don’t deserve it. He loves our five children. He works hard for Jesus. Serves His people faithfully. He works hard for his family.  And I am the one that God gave him to care for him, cook for him, wash his clothes, clean his house, love him selflessly, above my own needs or wants.  Honestly, because he is an adult, and with five little ones running around needing me to care for their needs, it is real easy to let my husband’s needs slip to the bottom of the list. And that’s not right. Nor acceptable. 1 Corinthians 7:34″ … she who is married cares about the things of the world–how she may please [her] husband.”  So, Jesus first; my husband needs to be second.

And next… the call of God to be a mother.

Since this call is pressing in on me now, check back in a few days! I’ll share some of my thoughts and vision that God has given me for being a godly mother.

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A New Season

We have been adjusting to a new schedule.  New in many ways! I think I’ll get to that in a later post though.  For now, a little background.

My dear husband (“Bebe”) has accepted a full time position at our church.  This is huge for us.  It has been our prayer for over 12 years to be able to serve the Lord in a “full-time position”.  We have basically been serving the Lord “part-time” for many years, although not for a wage.  We are so very blessed by this answer to prayer. We are free to commit all our energy to Him!

This change has also come on the heels of a very long few months for our family.  Bebe had been working a lot out of town, spending a  night or two away, working 16 hours a day (no joke).  Then when he was home, he was too utterly exhausted to do much of anything else but rest.  That can be challenging for 5 little ones who are excited to see their daddy, and a wife/mother who is desperately needing some adult interaction and reprieve from those 5 sweet little ones.  In fact, we were ready to pull back from serving in the church all together. 

I “had it out” with the Lord one day.  I told Him, “Well fine, Lord.  If you just don’t want us to serve you right now, FINE! I’ll stop fighting with you, I give up God!”  And, interestingly enough, it was that very weekend our senior pastor invited Bebe to join the pastoral team.  Wow.  Maybe I should’ve “given up” sooner!

Job 23:10, 14   “But He knows the way that I take…For He performs [what is] appointed for me…”

Don’t you wish you could just remember this basic truth more often? I wish I could! 

During those few months, I struggled.  Too much really.  I could look around and see others in more difficult situations than myself.  Husbands that had to be gone for months.  I could see marriages falling apart.  I was trying to be thankful that Bebe was only gone for a few days at a time.  I was definitely thankful for our marriage, and the faithful love that we have for one another.  But, I just found myself really struggling.  I don’t know why, still.  And it kind of bothers me. 

I desire to trust the Lord so completely that all else that transpires in my life is truly viewed through a heart and mind that is at peace with Him and that which He allows in my life. 

Psalm 25:4   Show me Your ways, O LORD; Teach me Your paths.

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Float

Ok, so I have been totally lame about my blog this last month…sorry.  And to top it off, my last post was a serious downer! Ugh.

Well I’m happy to say, the Lord has refreshed my heart and encouraged me!

“But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us.  We are hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed but not in despair…for all things are for your sakes, that grace, having spread through the many, may cause thanksgiving to abound to the glory of God.”

I’ve had some really good and hard conversations with my husband the last few weeks.  Challenging, convicting.  And God’s faithfulness urges me on.  What a great and mighty God we serve.  How amazing that He allows us the honor and privilege to be a part of His inner workings in other peoples lives.  Sometimes it’s easy.  Other times it is not so easy.  But either way, I must remember that He is absolutely worthy of any “sacrifice” I might make.  My “sacrifice” pales in comparison to the cross of Christ.

“If I am being poured out as a drink offering on the sacrifice and service of your faith, I am glad and rejoice with you all.”

Chris shared with me from Ezekiel 47 about the healing water flowing out from under the temple.  As the river flowed out it became deeper and deeper til Ezekiel was swimming in the middle of it, he could no longer walk or wade through it.  Oh, how the Lord desires for us to LET GO and float in His mercy, care, provision, …. to stop fighting and struggling and just let go………….

So, that is what I am attempting to do.  Check back in awhile and I’ll let you know how it’s going!

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Understanding

First, I will apologize for the incredibly long period of time since I’ve posted ANYTHING.  Geez, not even any holiday pictures! Yes, busy indeed…

Well the other evening I had the opportunity to go out with my honey to a fellowship with a sweet mix of believers.  It was  a real treat for me.  We do get out fairly frequently on dates, but to be able to share and pray with other brothers and sisters outside of the church building, with no children, really gave me some spiritual breathing room.  Just within the last couple weeks, I have moved out of the mothers room and into the “big church” again.  I hadn’t realized how much my spirit missed the corporate worship, fellowship.  I sucked it up like a dry sponge!

A lady that I’ve know for a number of years was there.  I’ve had her sons come through junior high group about 12 years ago, she was a nurse on the OB floor when some of my children were born, and we even led a ladies Bible study group together…but this moment with her just lifted and encouraged my spirit so much. 

She had been speaking of her sons, one in particular, and his quest for excitement and hunger for adventure.  As a mother, she had such insight into WHO her son is, HOW he has been created by the Creator; and because of that understanding she was just really free.  She wasn’t the overprotective mother, worried at the late night phone call, or overly concerned about the newest adventure.  Although she may not have highly approved of it, she was free in Jesus to let her son be who he was created to be.  It truly ministered to me of the freedom that she experienced, and the freedom that she “gave” her son – because she knew and understood her God.

With my husband embarking on a new adventure in life, of which includes a lot of traveling to foreign lands, it would be easy for me to listen to some of the unapproving voices or even let my own concerns get the best of me.  But when I know how Jesus created my husband, and I can trust my God with his, mine and our children’s well being, why would I want to stifle or hinder the work that God has called us to?

How beautiful and free to know our Heavenly Father, the Creator and Sustainor of our lives!

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Refreshing!

We enjoyed a yummy family breakfast…one of the kids’ favorites…homemade waffles with fresh chopped strawberries, powdered sugar and honey, or whip cream.  Mmmm – that’s what I think too!

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After a nice breakfast, Chris and I were able to get out by ourselves – in the middle of the day!  My mother in law is great. She watches the kids on a regular basis, giving us a chance to get some time together.  Well this was a real treat.  Chris loaded up the quad, I packed some lunch and off we went.  An adventure! We wandered here and there and after a beautiful ride through God’s hills we ended up at Lynx Lake. We enjoyed a picnic by the water, a good laugh at some crazy teenagers out on the lake and the best company this side of heaven.  Just me and my husband – what a refreshing time.  The Lord knows exactly what I need and when I need it.  Thank you Jesus!

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